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Post by Eleanor Rigby on Sept 28, 2013 18:27:29 GMT
I dunno cause it's kinda like Playgirl...I just read it for the articles...LMAO
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Post by CGisNuts on Sept 28, 2013 20:54:48 GMT
Wouldn't surprise me if they are making up names. I'm sure my letter to Eclipse still bothers him. In fact, it's probably at the forefront of his mind when things start to go bad, and he over(tries to)think stuff.
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Post by raindrops on Sept 29, 2013 11:14:33 GMT
I'm a pretty sensitive soul. I got a message telling me I had crossed a line. I read and reread all of my posts to make sure I am not being insensitive, arrogant, mean or flippant never mind colourful stuff. It was right at a really vulnerable time for me and I spiraled down badly. A very insensitive message that led to some serious depression and sleep loss issues when I don't even think I did anything wrong. I felt completely betrayed because I had come to trust the site and had received a lot of support through some of the toughest most horrible times. I felt for the first time in my life that someone believed me and then it felt like the ultimate slap down. I was mortified and felt dreadfully guilty but had no idea why. If ever a moderating email needs to be sent to someone could I recommend that a quote be included about why they are getting the email? There also needs to be an appeal capability. Sometimes moderation will be needed but none of the vulnerable, desperate people on these forums should have to go through what I and others on this forum have.
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Post by CGisNuts on Sept 29, 2013 15:59:39 GMT
^^^ well that's the big problem. raindrops, sorry your having or had a rough time. But again, that is a big problem because people are on that site who are going through a rough time, and something, whatever it is, could be the straw that really does so much damage. In a way, it's like talking with friends, although it's online. When I first got banned I had mentioned that fact, that they are cutting off support. That it could be a dangerous thing to do. |
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Post by Eleanor Rigby on Sept 29, 2013 20:26:22 GMT
I can't always speak and write eloquently especially if I am in a crisis so I curse A LOT when I am angry or upset! I've had idiots tell me that the only reason I curse is because I;m too stupid to express myself in other ways. Fuck them, I speak what I feel. As for warning or banning someone The ONLY TIME that a person should be warned or banned is if they are attacking someone verbally. Everyone has their own way of expressing themselves and there is no one way better than the other, communication and expression is as unique as every person who has ever lived. Usually the ones complaining are hypocrites anyway.
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Post by Elementum on Sept 29, 2013 23:39:28 GMT
Raindrops
I remember seeing that when you told me. There was NOthing in your posts that warranted that. I checked them. Absolutely nothing. Then when you stopped posting, I wondered where you were and how you were doing. Then was also banned. Checked the rules which the Mods referred to, but there was nothing in the rules. It was a whack interpretation.
Much so. Some people cannot afford therapy let alone the health care insurance. Or it's not even available?
$80-$120 US / hr is a lot of money for chatting with a person about your problems. Not everyone has that kind of cash and it takes months of work with a T if not years.
So what then?
Agreed. And for the most part, keep it public. That way, it's not a "mystery" and both Moderation and the party in question are accountable.
I hear you on that. For years, I was not "allowed" to even Be angry. If I showed anything other than Happy Happy Joy Joy around Stbx there was hell to pay. That was sooooo not good. Bottled it up and when I made it to therapy?
" Of course, you're angry! You have every right to be angry!"
Being Angry and Being Abusive, are two very different things.
Yep....they are Passive Aggressive and control freaks maybe?
Anybody catch Gary's latest post? It's really good....Perfectionisum...equals Surrendar
Gary built a great aircraft carrier. Wish he was still the one at the helm, or we would not be here.
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Post by CGisNuts on Sept 30, 2013 14:30:41 GMT
Perfection is almost like Breaking Bad. Take risks, be different, allow those who are part of it to contribute and rely on their skills to achieve your vision, as one cannot accomplish a shared vision alone.
Take risks and give up total control, stay true to your vision.
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