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Post by Elementum on Oct 24, 2013 17:30:35 GMT
Can see how that would get on your nerves huge time.
Add to that the bull crap that she pulled with CPS. She's not rowing with both oars.
Reads like she is trying to back you into a corner and force the issue while using your daughter as the pawn, She has no sense of common decency whatsoever. She wants/ needs her supply any which way she can get it and she doesn't care who she hurts in the process.
Seriously, my mind draws a blank at the thought processes. I can't enter that Matrix anymore. It hurts my head to go there. She is incapable of putting her child's needs ahead of her own and utterly unwilling to see her part in the demise of the marriage as well as the total load of horse dung she dumped over your head with CPS. Magikally irrelevant to the equation as far as she is able to comprehend. Which is bo diddly.
Since it's "hard" for her to be friends, perhaps acquaintances would be better? You have your visiting schedule worked out through the courts. Stick to that and make your daughter's wellness the focus. Not your exNPDw; She can get what ever therapy she needs independent of your daughter's. Seems like she is trying to put this over on you through your love for your daughter.
How are you holding up otherwise? How's your back after the last treatment and the move?
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Post by CGisNuts on Oct 24, 2013 20:32:59 GMT
Yes, daughter is like a pawn and it's just disgusting.
And what was up with therapist suggesting family therapy, right after stbEx told her how she hurts to hang out. Is that related?
I don't know, and I don't care, except for if the T is not 100% on the situation, then I need to make her aware. She should know that I am "friends" because of daughter.
My idea of friends is not what hers is. I do not want to hang out for coffee, go to a movie, talk on phone, go apple picking, unless it's with our daughter.
I don't want to be friends with this monster, nor share things with her.
She's the one asking me to help move, hang out, etc., not me. She was begging me to let her help me.
It really makes me sick to listen to her while and carry on about "why don't you, who can't you, I don't understand, etc"
Did you know she hired a PI the day I moved my stuff out of the garage to try to get my attorney fired and testify against me for something I guess she was hoping I would say or do.
84 days I did not see my child. That will always be in the forefront of my thinking when speaking with her. She was hoping I would forget that.
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Post by CGisNuts on Oct 24, 2013 20:34:27 GMT
Back is okay. Pain is always there. Shots I guess help a little, but my problem is I don't stop moving, and I'm always on the move.
Sitting on the computer doesn't help, but I'm not going to stop living.
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Post by Elementum on Oct 25, 2013 2:59:16 GMT
Don't blame you one bit. After the crap she has pulled? They just cannot / will not/ do not "get it." She hired a PI? To get your attorney fired? Say what? I have no idea how that works. That she could be so malicious as to go through all that nasty, vile bs to separate you from your daughter? That is not comprehensible to me. Just not.  Hug your little one, she won't be little for very long you know. They grow so fast. Watched my GF's kids from age 4 and 5 and now they are in University, seems like only yesterday. Careful with the back though. No need to stop living, but take care. Back surgery is not a pleasant option for the future. |
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Post by CGisNuts on Oct 25, 2013 15:22:08 GMT
I see now about the PD supply, she doesn't stop. Text message today asking me to call, with no stated reason, which means she wants to ask the same questions, "why, why don't you, why can't. " etc.
I just ignore it.
She just won't stop. Like a emotional stalker or a Narcs Vampire, in search of blood (supply).
If I call those questions will come. And guess what, I don't have to return her calls, that's the great part.
Yeah she hired a PI because she thought she'd hear us say stuff about her, IDK, it's so silly.
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Post by CGisNuts on Oct 25, 2013 16:08:08 GMT
Just like during the marriage, she wants me to be responsible for care of her feelings and happiness. The designed to be opaque "Can you call me" are very transparent, from too many years of too much experience. The guilt laden "You don't have to call me anymore" really means keep calling me.
All the evil things she's done she wants them to be forgotten like they never happened and she will never be accountable.
She seems to forget that I do not have to call when it does not involve the child. I'm guessing the "can we meet on my day off" is coming again, as it's been a week or two weeks since.
That will not happen. I'll cut that off really quick. Do not have time or the want.
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Post by Elementum on Oct 25, 2013 17:46:15 GMT
In a nutshell. You are divorced from her and she wants to hang out on her day off? Weird. when the r/s is over, you leave each other alone to heal. What she did was horrific. It's almost like you are the calm in her storm. I get that feeling when dealing with stbx. I can't imagine any other reason he bothers to come back. She can't push you around, and neither can mine. So, now we have "value" or I don't know what. And I don't care overly much from the aspect of the marriage. I do still feel for the hurting unit under all that crap. And, I will not remain. Period. So, same as the title of the OP, Dreading this meeting. because when he cries, I melt into a useless puddle of goo.  But if I keep the walls up, maybe,that's all he will be able to mirror. |
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But if I keep the walls up, maybe,that's all he will be able to mirror.