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Post by CGisNuts on Oct 2, 2013 13:23:06 GMT
Well, found a new place to live. Dropping off a check today. It's another house share, but 250 less a month, on 5 acres of land. Although the home is not as nice, the landlord seems normal, and works for a real business, not an imaginary business where tenants are the income and providers of groceries.
I just had minor back surgery which will halt the move.
My stbEx landlord will be angry I'm not paying her another month of rent. My anniversary is the 6th of the month, not the first as she is saying. I've paid her security she can use.
For some reason, I have stockholm syndrome, that I have to shake.
My daughter will have issues with leaving so quick and she won't get a chance at closure. I'm even thinking of staying till friday so she can spend one last night and make sure she has everything. IDK if that's a good idea.
I hate living like this on such a tight budget, but I have lucked out in ways.
My stbEx landlord is going to flip because she is insane. Let's see why I have been constructively evicted.
She has gone into my space and went through draws, papers, armour, and has read my mail and other documents.
She has eaten my food and my daughters food.
She has turned wifi off out of spite.
She has turned AC off 80% of the summer, only turning it on when it's 90º in the home.
She has broken several agreements, one being not deducting storage after taking away space.
She has removed all light bulbs from the finished basement so we can only use a lamp.
She has rented out space without notice that I and my daughter use on a daily space.
Unplugged DirecTV and taken away remotes.
She has bugged the house with microphones.
So she is now out of all tenants. 5 different ones in 6 months.
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Post by Elementum on Oct 2, 2013 13:57:43 GMT
CG , that is great you found a new place! But your back? What happened there? How can you move when you need to be healing and giving your back a rest?
What are you feeling Stockholmy about?
Does your little one know about the move? Have you had a chance to prepare her for the idea?
She has been driving you crazy for a long time. But, as long as you are paid up, she really cannot do anything.
The new place sounds like it will be lovely and definitely more peaceful. Hope you can find some friends to help you with the move. Messing around with a back surgery and lifting and twisting? Not a good idea.
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Post by CGisNuts on Oct 2, 2013 17:22:35 GMT
I had RadioFrequency which is where they burn off nerve endings. I have 3 herniated discs and a bad back.
Well I have to go so I have no other choice, I can deal with a bit of pain, as I live in pain already.
I guess I feel the SS from my landlord's mental abuse. She was a doctor of psychology or psychiatrist until her licence was revoked for "presenting a danger to public safety and health", so I assume she has been using mental tricks, otherwise one of the 5 tenants would have snapped at her.
As far as payment, she has my security which was never put into any bank as it should be, and my anniversary is the 6th of the month even though I signed a new lease.
I am planning some things (legal). As no way she should get away with all the shit she has. There will be new victims if I don't take action.
Not to mention how she has taken things away and broke agreements. She took in a border and gave her the finished basement I and my daughter used on a daily basis. No warning, no discount, nothing. And she made up a lie as if it was a surprise friend in need. She even had an extra bedroom but instead she took the basement.
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Post by Elementum on Oct 3, 2013 1:11:16 GMT
Familiar with this procedure. Stbx has used it with success. Very bad back. Still needs a couple of days of doing nothing.
Psyche games or just being a twit? Using power plays and fear of forcing a premature move? Making life so unpleasant you don't want to be there?
*lovely* that would be really irritating.
Why is it so hard for some people to stick to agreements? It's one thing to have a problem with something, then find a workable for solution for both sides. Just because she has the "power" she has to push? Hmmmm, sounds familiar though doesn't it? PD stuff.
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Post by CGisNuts on Oct 7, 2013 19:14:24 GMT
I am out!!!!!! Actually moved out Fri night completely, with a notebook and bookcase still there, and keys to return.
90% unpacked and settled with a few things here and there. Just like packing, unpacking and organizing the important things first.
I gave the old landlord a nice note saying thanks. Trying to let the evil of her be in the past and take the high road. Getting legal revenge will only have her in my life for years to come. I did leave before 30 days and she has my security. But she is dead broke, so I'm leaving that be. On one hand it is 750, but I did leave early so it's wash. No need to go to court and have a chance of her stalking me for life because she can't pay it.
She sent me a text begging me to come back, which I said no.
So I am takling the high road and letting her think that I did appreciate her. The other former tenants sent her texts saying she is a psycho and crazy and to never contact them again. I just don't treat people like that. I mean who knows what if she kills herself.
So am I wrong for being nice?
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Post by Elementum on Oct 8, 2013 0:10:10 GMT
Not to me. Rather to take the high road even if it costs me $$$.
Great to read you found a nice place too!
How's your back doing?
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Post by CGisNuts on Oct 8, 2013 15:40:11 GMT
Yeah I could use the 750, but in theory I did not give her 30 days. Yes she did break a shitload of laws, but no real harm was done.
She is a really sick person who has no one at all. No one. So what I did for her by not legally doing anything could make a difference.
But on judgement day, whenever that is for me, maybe God will appreciate that. With my past, any bit helps. But to be serious, she needs help. And she has no one, so at least she will believe I care for her.
She now thinks we're friends and that is okay if it mean she has an ounce of happiness or feels better. That could be the difference between life and death. She is a human being, although a real POS, but she is sick.
I didn't want to be the one who sent her over the edge. I mean she text me a few times as if we were buddies, so whatever.
I don't want to sound like I'm trying to be a saint, just live a life as a decent person, who has compassion.
I now have at least peace of mind. And I will use it as a lesson to teach my daughter compassion and being a decent person.
A person who really hates her could sue her for 5k, but she cannot pay, so what would that do, have a life long stalker? No thanks, I want her to leave me alone and not have to worry about a broke, homeless mental patient hell bent on revenge. Who knows, maybe she'd stalk me, and maybe try to harm me or my daughter. People like her, when pushed into a corner do crazy stuff.
I do plan on emailing her and being honest about what she needs to do for herself.
My back is better, thanks.
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Post by Elementum on Oct 8, 2013 17:30:34 GMT
Rather to do things the nice way then have to worry about what's coming back over my shoulder.
Compassion. That trait gets us into sooo much trouble.
Good to read your back is doing better.
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Post by wanderer on Oct 22, 2013 1:29:21 GMT
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congratulations