Domestic Violence

Some very basic truths:

1. It takes two people to make a relationship work, but only one to destroy it.
2. When a situation becomes violent, both partners are not responsible for it; there is always a primary aggressor.
Anger does not cause violence.
3. It is not natural for a man to strike out physically if his feelings have been hurt.
4. Anyone can change, including men, if they choose to.
5. It is not okay for a man to put his fist through a wall, or slash the car tires, or break all the dishes, or throw all the babies supplies off the balcony because it’s his house.
6. A man’s abuse of his intimate partner has everything to do with the kind of parent he is and none of it is good.
7. The sole purpose for using violence and intimidation is to gain power and control over another.
8. Alcohol use does not cause violence.
9. Drug use does not cause violence with the possible exceptions of extended anabolic steroids or methamphetamine use.
10. A marriage certificate is not a certificate of ownership.
11. A birth certificate is not a certificate of ownership.
12. Women are not just as violent as men. 99% of rapes are committed by heterosexual males upon everyone else and over 90% of chargeable batteries are committed by heterosexual males upon everyone else.
13. No one deserves or enjoys being abused.
14. Animal abuse is a screaming red flag of impending people abuse.
15. Very few abusive men have a legitimate mental disorder which has been accurately diagnosed by a mental health professional.
16. Attending a house of worship does not guarantee that a man will not be abusive.
17. Couples or marriage counseling is a very dangerous option for abusive men to be enrolled in.
18. Extreme jealousy does not mean a man thinks his partner is so fabulous that he feels he must protect her because every man who sees her will be unable to control himself. It means he does not trust her, that he owns her, and that she isn’t going to draw a breath he doesn’t know about.
19. Abusive men do not snap, they are in total control of what they choose to do and why.
20. Men who abuse their partners do not believe a single word of the preceding.