Post by Elementum on Sept 18, 2013 2:43:47 GMT
It dies in a PD relationship when you finally realize/ own that the facade you fell in love with was a mirror of yourself at the beginning of the relationship to hook you in. The physical/ emotional/ psychological abuse, the betrayals of your trust, the cheating and whole push/ pull dynamic. Stockholm syndrome thrown in for good measure, add a kilo or 10 of Cognitive dissonance and a big glob of betrayal and trauma bonding. And there it is: BPD Love.
Love : A Four Letter Word
That is not Love. It's a predator / prey relationship. Guess which one of the two you are?
Working your way backwards
Holding the ugly truth of the matter at the forefront of one's awareness, will in time break the bonds. It's not love. The initial infatuation stage? Wonderful wasn't it? But...things started going very wrong. Then, enter cognitive dissonance, bargaining and denial. You get the idea. It's not a pleasant journey. There are two sides to the equation.