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Post by freetobeme63 on Jun 27, 2013 21:16:34 GMT
Just wanted to say everybody was right. The longer I keep NO CONTACT goin it does get better for me. I been readin up on co-dependency and tryin to learn as much as I can about why I may have made some choices that I've made in my adult life (crazy childhood drama). I still have moments where the ex BPD/NPD pops up in my head but I just think of it as a bad habit and if I don't feed it it will die out. Just gonna keep workin on me and livin life. I hope everyone is doin better and livin and lookin towards a brighter future.
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Post by unicorn on Jun 28, 2013 13:19:15 GMT
Freetobeme,
I'm reading through co-dependency as well. Finding a whole lot of insight. I'm reading Co Dependency No More right now. Can you offer anything else that you have found to be helpful?
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Post by Maremma67 on Jun 28, 2013 14:26:42 GMT
You know there are a lot of books out there are that are helpful to our personal growth. The more we learn and understand about all different types of other people the easier it is for us to make good choices for ourselves no matter what situation we find ourselves in. We can "escape" one bad relationship but if WE don't change on the inside we will keep choosing one bad relationship after the other. Or more to the point they will choose us and we won't have the skills to either prevent it in the first place or get out early once we realize there are serious issues going on.
Emotional Vampires was a very good book. That author has a sense of humor or at least he did in the first edition of the book but he gets his point across very well.
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Post by freetobeme63 on Jun 29, 2013 2:05:44 GMT
Freetobeme, I'm reading through co-dependency as well. Finding a whole lot of insight. I'm reading Co Dependency No More right now. Can you offer anything else that you have found to be helpful? check out baggagereclaim.com. I ordered an ebook "No Contact Rule 2nd addition". Its approx. 242 pages and its awsome. So much in that book has helped me. I have been readin other books to like Deal Breakers, The Wizard of OZ and other narcissist, Verbal Abuse Survivors Speak Out, and I Hate You Dont Leave Me and Women Who Love To Much. I have some of these on audio so can listen to them at any time. I also ordered Mr. Unavailable and the fallback girl and Emotional Blackmail. I can not wait to get these two. |
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Post by Maremma67 on Jun 29, 2013 4:26:15 GMT
Oh wow you're a bookworm too Free! That's awesome to see.Do you have a library in your house too?
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Post by Elementum on Jun 29, 2013 7:43:12 GMT
(((( Hugs))))
Great to see you here!!!
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Post by freetobeme63 on Jun 30, 2013 3:32:41 GMT
Well I dont have a library..... I kinda wasn't able to do much readin while with the ex just because he was always interruptin and wantin the attention on him. Just how it was. I am so enjoyin my time to read now. Didn't realize how much I missed it. Was just gonna add another book to that is soooooo helpin me through. I am learnin so much and feels so good. Victory Over Verbal Abuse by author Patricia Evans (Love her). I bought the audio on this one for trips back and forth from home. There are techniques in the book that helps to get rid of the negative and obsessive thoughts. She does mention practicing mindfullness. I need to do a little more research on that. She also mentions hypnosis as bein very helpful in recovery. I am lovin gettin over and beyond all the trauma. I am definitely feelin the good these days. I hope you guys are feelin it more to.
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Post by freetobeme63 on Jun 30, 2013 3:38:42 GMT
Maremma67 tryin to find that book Emotional Vampires as well. I think someone else may have mentioned it on the other forum and I made a mental note to look for it but completely forgot LOL. I do better these days to write it down at the moment I see or hear a book suggestion. But, yah I want to get that one to. Thank you for mentionin it. |
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Post by SolarFlare on Jun 30, 2013 5:54:09 GMT
Will have to hit the library or Amazon ..ooh...Chapters. I will be in North America, I see books on the list!
Happy to read that you are feeling better freetobeme63. There is Soooo much crap to process, still digging around in my brain and finding junk...ugh.
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Post by maremma67 on Jul 1, 2013 17:13:46 GMT
Emotional Vampires has a new edition. I am going to send for that one too. I only have the old one. Indeed it is amazing just how much you find that you were missing out on once you escape out from under their big black cloud. I am so glad to see that you are getting to enjoy all the reading you had been missing out on!
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Post by freetobeme63 on Jul 1, 2013 21:01:05 GMT
Yah I am feelin much better Solarflare. Yall it feels good to have made it this far. Still pushin through. Maremma67 I couldn't help myself I ordered The Sociopath Next Door by Martha Stout. Listened to it in bed last night. Very Creepy.
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Post by Truman on Sept 9, 2013 17:25:22 GMT
How cool is this?
Maremma67 and freetobeme63 are In The House!
I'm hoping Pretty Pictures and Practicing Acceptance join us here.
If anyone had seen Serenity_Now around the boards, I want to give her a "holler."
She and the "momster memories" she struggles with are welcome here!
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Post by raindrops on Sept 29, 2013 10:23:08 GMT
Oooohh FTBM!! Before I left my marriage I read one of Patricia Evans books too - the Verbally Abusive Relationship. It was fantastic!!!! I had to read it quickly whist my husband was overseas then hide it at my Mums when he got home and then return it to my friend. I might buy it myself now. And put it proudly on my bookshelf!
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