Post by Elementum on Sept 14, 2013 5:22:03 GMT
Codependency Test And Definition
Nice write up on co dependency.
Codependency Test: Take this test to find out if you're helping people who need or needing people to help:
1. Do you feel demeaned, hurt or offended when someone you love tells you they don't need your help? No
2. In the last year, has anyone resorted to arguing, begging or raising their voice to get you to stop trying to help them? No.
3. If you had plenty of money and your child, sibling or parent had an addiction to drinking, spending, gambling or drugs, and they asked you for money to help with their necessary expenses (food, rent, clothes, bills), would you give them the money? No.
4. When someone shares a life or relationship problem with you, but doesn't ask for help, do you offer help or advice, anyway? Rarely.
5. When you survey your relationships, do you find yourself surrounded by mostly people who need you? No.
6. Do you ever find yourself making excuses for the needy people in your life? No.
7. If someone you love has a substance abuse, emotional, spending or gambling problem, do you avoid confronting them? No.
8. Do you measure your self-esteem by how much someone depends on you? No.
9. Do you ever remind people where they would be without you? No.
#4 comes under conversation, but could very easily be co dependent...so have to watch that one.
Nice write up on co dependency.
Codependency Test: Take this test to find out if you're helping people who need or needing people to help:
1. Do you feel demeaned, hurt or offended when someone you love tells you they don't need your help? No
2. In the last year, has anyone resorted to arguing, begging or raising their voice to get you to stop trying to help them? No.
3. If you had plenty of money and your child, sibling or parent had an addiction to drinking, spending, gambling or drugs, and they asked you for money to help with their necessary expenses (food, rent, clothes, bills), would you give them the money? No.
4. When someone shares a life or relationship problem with you, but doesn't ask for help, do you offer help or advice, anyway? Rarely.
5. When you survey your relationships, do you find yourself surrounded by mostly people who need you? No.
6. Do you ever find yourself making excuses for the needy people in your life? No.
7. If someone you love has a substance abuse, emotional, spending or gambling problem, do you avoid confronting them? No.
8. Do you measure your self-esteem by how much someone depends on you? No.
9. Do you ever remind people where they would be without you? No.
#4 comes under conversation, but could very easily be co dependent...so have to watch that one.