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Post by Elementum on Jan 6, 2014 2:28:33 GMT
Narcissists Suck
Great blog on NPD and the variants. Also some extra links. Some pretty crazy stuff in a scary and eye opening manner. Truly convoluted and fascinating. The internet is far from safe from the same sort of occurrence.
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Post by Eleanor Rigby on Jan 7, 2014 17:53:11 GMT
My H does that to me, "I'm going to tell (fill in the blank) what you really think of them." umm, first of all you only know what you think of them not what I think of them, second, anything I have said to you I have said to them first. I tell my H all the time that he needs to find another day job cause his mind reading skills suck.
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Post by Elementum on Jan 8, 2014 4:40:33 GMT
LOL...mine suck too. And when he asked that I "try to read his mind"...I nearly died. I should "just know"..Really? Based on what?
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Post by Eleanor Rigby on Jan 8, 2014 4:55:52 GMT
No kidding! Mine acts like I should know what he wants even before he does.
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Post by Elementum on Jan 8, 2014 5:07:03 GMT
Crazy making BS. Not my problem. Act like a nut, get treated like a nut.  |
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Post by CGisNuts on Jan 8, 2014 5:07:58 GMT
You all know what my ex did to me and what she said about me to people to gain supporters, so that's all true.
They also become vindictive to anyone who wrongs them, going out of their way, on the smallest of things, to make those who have wronged them pay. Just the other day because a woman at the cable company gave her the wrong info and "wasted her precious time", she was insistent on telling every person at the cable company how wronged she was.
You spill their milk 2 years ago and they don't forget.
And to them, it is your job to make them happy.
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Post by Elementum on Jan 8, 2014 5:22:01 GMT
True, they forget nothing of a slight, or even that which was unintentional or a third party. Those were the best. Before he left, I got blasted with stuff from before we married. WTF? Like that is going to "improve" the situation? Make me feel guilt? Or what? I have no clue and nor did I care.
Before I even knew about PD's or had an inking of a clue of a tiny concept, I had told him that, "Nothing makes you happy!"
And it was true. Problem? Wasn't "always" bad. Was also good times too, just that the shit times were beyond some horror shows for the intensity and senselessness of it.
Control was the main issue in many regards. And the main problem? He could not control himself, so to control everything around him made him feel "better." Or who the hell knows what.
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Post by CGisNuts on Jan 8, 2014 23:39:57 GMT
What did you guys think what was up before you had the knowledge of a PD?
I learned what a PD was in 10-11 or 11-12.
Before that all the PD fog stuff, the crazy, the circle conversations I used to make the effort to try to make her understand by explaining stuff 8 ways to sunday. The insane and endless conversations with her moving the finish lines back further and further, I used to try to reach each one.
I wonder had now been 1923 instead of 2013 would I ever know what a PD was, would I leave, would I try to reach those finish lines?
I think eventually I would have left but still felt guilt.
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Post by Eleanor Rigby on Jan 10, 2014 20:59:19 GMT
I had no clue at all what was wrong with my husband, I thought he was just a mean, lying, two-faced s.o.b. and the ONLY reason I stayed with him is because his mother begged me to stay (despite my desire to help him). The first time I left, if I had had a support system, I would have stayed gone and never looked back but, I had no one to turn to except my own mother and she is the LAST person I would rely on. She is half the reason every r/s I have ever had has been a trainwreck either because of the way she raised me or by direct involvement. I can't wait to get away from this bastard once and for all.
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