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Post by unicorn on Dec 23, 2013 17:04:41 GMT
He came home last night upset, after his employee only Christmas party. Apparently he got into a small disagreement with his boss. (something I actually blame her more for, she is very narcissistic and immature). Anyway he came home and I asked him to tell me what happened, we ended up getting in a disagreement. He blatantly said that I forced him into taking a job, he didn't want to take. He is upset that he is not able to see the kids as much (working retail, and the only solution would be to get a different job). Also basically, I don't cook enough, I don't clean enough and I don't teach our kids enough. But then I got accused of being sensitive and taking everything too literally. So I'm back to being indifferent and upset. ALso I have decided to go back to school and I think I am realizing he doesn't want me too (out of sheer, immature jealousy of me). And all the sad, confusing feelings are back for the first time in the past (almost 7 months). WTF.. Will he ever get a job that he is happy with? Will I ever do enough for him??
Oh and I see my family too much (according to him).
He woke up this morning, fine. Mostly happy. ugh.
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Post by Eleanor Rigby on Dec 24, 2013 2:06:19 GMT
Your husband sounds just like mine. They are never satisfied with or by anything that anyone does BUT they staunchly refuse to do anything for themselves. I tell mine, every time, that if he doesn't like the way I do something then he should do it himself but until that happens he can shut the f*ck up.
Mine also does the "you made me" routine. Honey, all I can say is NOBODY can MAKE you do anything that you don't want to do. That of course does not apply to being the victim of abuse but just in general. I have been forced into situations I did not want to participate but the threat of what would come if I didn't was worse than just appeasing hi., I no longer face that threat because I defiantly refuse to allow him to intimidate or bully me any longer.
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