Post by CGisNuts on Nov 15, 2013 19:37:41 GMT
Just to follow that up, I think we tend to somehow on a subconcious level believe them because they change the rules, move the finish line and say the same thing over and over. Once they're gone, we have to retrain our brains I think, get out of their reality, because it's a Fucked reality.
My wife never knew how lucky she was, and how much she wasted. If I didn't marry her, which many told me not to, she'd have two kids out of wedlock. I did the right thing. I also accepted her son, which her family made her believe was a given, when in fact I could have not.
When we first got married, within a year I had built up a decent nest egg. And I was willing to work harder so she could eventually stay at home. She came into the marriage with 20k in debt, with a son. Of course she was so stupid and didn't get the sacrifices it would take. I had discussed a plan which would take no extra excessive spending on clothes or junk, and me freelancing in addition to a full-time job, and within two years she could stay home. I also built up 12k in saving, 4 of which was gifts from my family, and 8k from my job. Only 1k from her family.
This to her wasn't good enough. If I worked it meant I didn't want to spend time with her, and she deserved to shop. The savings was depleted (my fault for not checking), and her 20k of debt became 30, then eventually 40. Savings was gone within a year and a half, and she never accounted for it.
Of course it was all my fault for not suddenly making 100k instead of 60, and her having to work.
All that, if this was 1940 or even another country, a husband would have beaten his wife or sent her to an asylum. Not that I think that is okay, just trying to illustrate the lengths she went.
If I had a normal, non PD wife, I would have had a huge freelance business, made 100k, and that 12k in savings would have been 24k in two years. And within those two years my normal wife would have had her debts paid off and be a stay at home mom. Her being my wife, I would have worked 2x as hard and spent quality time, not quantity time with her because I would have wanted to spend that time and worked harder.
Because my wife is stupid and ignorant, and selfish, she couldn't grasp that and made trying to bust my ass miserable because I was mentally abused for it.
Not only did she steal the 12k I had saved up, and gifted from my family, she spent 4k of the kids savings. Her excuse? Because I didn't make enough, so she needed to pay our bills. She was unable to explain paying bills with cash, somehow creating these stories of how things got paid.
She lives in fantasy land where nothing ever will add up or make sense, only to her.
All those things I've listed like spending, sneaking the savings are all my fault.
I can really thank God she is no longer a person I will have to spend each day with. A child who wants the home to be foreclosed, so she can tell our daughter it's my fault. God put shit in her skull instead of brains. While I say that here, never have I told her that. But she has never educated herself on any part of life. Not being a genius is one thing, even not being bright is okay because that's what God has given you, but when you refuse to learn anything about anything, pick up a book, read to figure out, that's stupidity, and 100% your fault. To persecute others because you have no idea what your saying is moronic, that's her.
My wife never knew how lucky she was, and how much she wasted. If I didn't marry her, which many told me not to, she'd have two kids out of wedlock. I did the right thing. I also accepted her son, which her family made her believe was a given, when in fact I could have not.
When we first got married, within a year I had built up a decent nest egg. And I was willing to work harder so she could eventually stay at home. She came into the marriage with 20k in debt, with a son. Of course she was so stupid and didn't get the sacrifices it would take. I had discussed a plan which would take no extra excessive spending on clothes or junk, and me freelancing in addition to a full-time job, and within two years she could stay home. I also built up 12k in saving, 4 of which was gifts from my family, and 8k from my job. Only 1k from her family.
This to her wasn't good enough. If I worked it meant I didn't want to spend time with her, and she deserved to shop. The savings was depleted (my fault for not checking), and her 20k of debt became 30, then eventually 40. Savings was gone within a year and a half, and she never accounted for it.
Of course it was all my fault for not suddenly making 100k instead of 60, and her having to work.
All that, if this was 1940 or even another country, a husband would have beaten his wife or sent her to an asylum. Not that I think that is okay, just trying to illustrate the lengths she went.
If I had a normal, non PD wife, I would have had a huge freelance business, made 100k, and that 12k in savings would have been 24k in two years. And within those two years my normal wife would have had her debts paid off and be a stay at home mom. Her being my wife, I would have worked 2x as hard and spent quality time, not quantity time with her because I would have wanted to spend that time and worked harder.
Because my wife is stupid and ignorant, and selfish, she couldn't grasp that and made trying to bust my ass miserable because I was mentally abused for it.
Not only did she steal the 12k I had saved up, and gifted from my family, she spent 4k of the kids savings. Her excuse? Because I didn't make enough, so she needed to pay our bills. She was unable to explain paying bills with cash, somehow creating these stories of how things got paid.
She lives in fantasy land where nothing ever will add up or make sense, only to her.
All those things I've listed like spending, sneaking the savings are all my fault.
I can really thank God she is no longer a person I will have to spend each day with. A child who wants the home to be foreclosed, so she can tell our daughter it's my fault. God put shit in her skull instead of brains. While I say that here, never have I told her that. But she has never educated herself on any part of life. Not being a genius is one thing, even not being bright is okay because that's what God has given you, but when you refuse to learn anything about anything, pick up a book, read to figure out, that's stupidity, and 100% your fault. To persecute others because you have no idea what your saying is moronic, that's her.
