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Post by Eleanor Rigby on Oct 26, 2013 1:25:03 GMT
WOO HOO my favorite holiday of the year! I wish I could decorate but being broke all the time I have no extra money to spend on crafts or decorations, I don't even buy candy to give out. Hopefully one year I can create the awesome scary haunted house I dream of and have the whole neighborhood come visit. I want to walk through it with my baby sister because I love to tease and torture her. She is a big scaredy cat and can't even watch scary movies without screaming and hiding lol.  I can't wait to see her again♥ I miss her so bad! 20 years is too damn long not to be able to hug your sister. |
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Post by Elementum on Oct 26, 2013 2:00:47 GMT
20 years? That is a very long time ER. It will be wonderful to see her again.
Halloween is fun. Even for adults. Had fun at the few parties I went to here. People really got into the whole costume thing. Otherwise halloween is not really celebrated. Just with the furriners.
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Post by Eleanor Rigby on Oct 26, 2013 3:12:47 GMT
Yeah, the last time I saw her in person was just a couple of months before I met my H. I lost touch with her until 2001 because of our family and their issues and then lost touch with her again until 2008. This time nothing and no one will keep us apart again. H has tried telling me that I can't talk to her...BWAHAHAHA! I showed his sorry ass that I WILL talk to my sister and NO ONE CAN STOP ME. He threatens to not pay the internet bill, I said I would call her, he threatens to not pay the phone bill, I said I would write to her, he said he wouldn't buy me any stamps or envelopes and I said I would ask my neighbor to take me to the post office. That's when he calls me names and sometimes threatens me with violence. Their reasoning is wickedly flawed.
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Post by Elementum on Oct 26, 2013 3:39:38 GMT
Why on God's green earth would he shove his miserable ass between you and your sister's relationship? That is Nutz!!! And what a prick to threaten you left right and center!
Makes me ill!
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Post by Eleanor Rigby on Oct 26, 2013 3:59:11 GMT
That is what he has done with ALL of my r/s. The friends I had when we met I have not seen or spoken to since then. My FOO was not a healthy situation anyway so no loss there but still it was the only family I had.
Every time I have tried to make a friend he has shown his ass and embarrassed me to the point that every single time someone tries to get close to me, ask me out for coffee, girls night out etc I have to politely decline. I'm not allowed to have friends unless they are his friends too and he has to approve of them, if not then I'm shit out of luck.
I don't like the ppl he hangs out with and calls friends. They're all liars, two faced and back stabbers. They talk about everybody including him and me behind our backs but he continues to hang out with them. I told him a year ago this coming December that I never want to be around them again and so far I have been fortunate not to have to deal with any of them. They are all having a Halloween party tomorrow and I have told him for 2 weeks that I AM NOT going. He just says "Yes you are". There's going to be a fight if he pushes the subject any farther.
It all boils down to him thinking he has control of me and who I talk to or have a r/s with. I just let him think he has control and then go on about what I want to do. He has so far made it impossible for me to see my sister but I got approved for a credit card this month and it's got just enough of a limit that I can drive rent a car and drive out to see her if I want. What is he going to do about it? He says he wants nothing to do with my family but he tries to flirt with my sister when she's online chatting with me and is friends with her on Facebook. He tells me to tell her sexual stuff he's going to do to her or have her do to him or tells me to tell her things about her body. I just ignore him.
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Post by Elementum on Oct 26, 2013 4:16:05 GMT
Isolation. Stbx did same in the beginning. It was completely insane. Up until 2 years ago, to go out for coffee, I was cheating and he would call 30+ times to bellow at me long distance. I would offer him to say hello to my friend... that would shut him up. But they also did not forget,
He wants you to be there for him. It has nothing to do with you and whether you want to be there at all. Digging your heels into the dirt over that one will not be fun. But what can he do? Dress you up himself and pick you up. Put you in the car and force you to smile? Passive resistance. Nothing.
Holy crap...that is one screwed up maggot of a human...your sister he talks like that to and about and with you? Sock!
Complete freaking idiot! Stbx has not ever come up with anything that whack. I would vomit on him if he did.
Unbelievable. How can a mind think like that?
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Post by Eleanor Rigby on Oct 26, 2013 17:40:55 GMT
Oh yes, the tried and true isolation technique and if you don't conform you get accused of every vile act known to God and man not to mention getting your head slammed into a solid wood door face first or through a plate glass window or punched in the back of the skull. Oh yes, I have such fond memories of those times...not.
As for the party, if I refuse to go he will resort to all kinds of nonsense from being cute and annoying until it finally erupts into a full blown out war and his fucking mother is no help. "Oh Ellie, just go and have a good time, you know you want to." What part of I DON'T WANT TO GO is so fucking difficult to understand?
Oh and about my sister, you have to understand Mea, he's only teasing... The truth is that if he thought for one second my sister would give him the time of day in that department he would be all over her like white on rice.
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Post by Eleanor Rigby on Oct 28, 2013 1:59:59 GMT
So, you know I went to the Halloween party last night and I had a good time. I drove home because H had been drinking and although he was not drunk or even tipsy it is just safer if I drive just in case the law gets stupid lol. I hate driving when he's riding with me because wherever we are going he has to be a backseat driver.
Last night it was "don't take off so fast", "stay off the edge of the road", "you're driving too slow", "turn at this light because it takes forever", "turn here, don't go to the next block", "be careful because the cops are out heavy tonight", "don't put your window down or the windshield won't clear off", "turn the windshield wipers on", "put my window up", "put my window down a little", "watch your speed".
Mind you, this was all in a 15 minute drive from the party to home and I wasn't the one drinking! Not to mention that he and I have been driving for the same number of years and I have just as much experience with different types of vehicles as he AND I can even drive some that HE CAN'T!
I finally told him to shut the hell up and let me drive because I don't need his help.
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